I know you probably really like this guy you started texting. Now he’s stopped texting you back and you’re really worried that you did something to chase him away.
Well, there are 3 main reasons why he’s not texting you back.
Reason #1: He’s a fun guy with lots of interests
If you have hooked a fun and interesting guy, he probably has a full life. He may have classes or a job. He may be into sports or a hobby that takes his time. I’m sure he has buddies that he does things with, too.
So you shouldn’t expect him to be too available. If he had a lot of free time to text you all the time – that would worry me. That’s a signal to me that he doesn’t have a lot going for himself and he is needy or clingy. A big turn off.
Reason #2: You are not letting him chase you
Maybe you are chasing him by always texting him first. That’s turning him off. You must let the guys do the chasing. That includes letting him text you first.
You want to have high worth in his eyes. Guys value what they have put their efforts into. So if you are texting him all the time, he’ll have the impression that you have a lot of free time on your hands and other guys aren’t after you and you’ll be less attractive to him.
Reason #3: Your texting convos are predictable and boring
Your texts must be short, fun and flirty.
You want to be flirty and be playful when you text a guy. Tease him and bust on him in a playful way. You will stand out from the other girls he is texting that are sending him boring messages. Also remember, to end the texting convo first. Leave him with wanting more.
Let’s see a fun and flirty texting convo in action
Your guy will probably text you something simple like, „How are you today?“ or „What are you doing now?“
You want to respond in a fun and flirty way.
You can play off of something you remember about him when you last saw him. Let’s say it could be something when you first met that he did or said or that he wore that you can tease him about. Bust on him in a playful way.
Let’s say he wore a loud-looking shirt when you last saw him. You could text him this way:
Him: „How are you today?“
You: „Much better after giving my eyes a rest from that eye popping shirt you wore the other night.“
You tease him about that shirt as your response to his opening text. The smiley let’s him know you’re teasing.
Him: „Hey, that’s one of my fav shirts. I get a lot of compliments on that shirt.“
You: „From who? The clown that does kiddie birthday parties.“
You continue to tease and challenge him. Let’s see how he handles himself.
Him: „Tell you what. I can model another shirt for you to see I’ve got good taste.“
He’s hinting that he’d like to see you again to prove himself. You just created a little bit deeper attraction in you with just a short text convo.
If you text him this way, he will remember you and think about you more. The more he thinks about you, the more he will want to chase you, which includes texting you but more importantly making plans to see you again soon.